What if you got the bitter surprise that you were written out of the will?

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What if you found out you were written out of the will after your last surviving parent died?

Can you imagine the betrayal, the hurt, and the surprise?

It could be enough to derail any sibling relationship or create rifts in the family that could last for generations to come.

This is just one of the stories Senior Care Home Owner and Life Transition Advisor Annette Pang shared during this interview.

Click on the image or this link to tune into this conversation.

When you do, you’ll:

  • Learn the bitter consequences that can unfold in families when important conversations about care go unspoken;
  • Hear real and riveting stories from the elder care trenches to get you thinking differently about the future you want for yourself and your loved ones; and
  • Discover a new way to start conversations across the generations before challenges become hardships to save drama, trauma and chaos and welcome peace, calm, and presence to deal with life united as a family.

If you haven’t yet started the process of getting your act together, here’s my advice.

Buy Life Goes on Roadmap™ right now. Then, commit to completing the three most important sections that would give you or your family the biggest run for the money in case something strange or random should happen to you.

At the very least, make sure your beneficiary designations are up to date so there are no surprises later.

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What if you don’t want grandma’s dining room table?

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A senior care center owner and I were talking the other day. Annette Pang has worked closely with adult children and their parents and extended families for years. I asked what kinds of conflicts come up, and I got an ear-full.

> Who gets to decide if mom gets a new recliner or a new bed?

> Who gets grandma’s dining room table?

> Who disposes of dad’s ashes?

> Did he want to be cremated in the first place?

> How will we divide the family trust?

> What did mom or dad really want at end of life?

> Extraordinary measures or palliative care?

She told me that these kinds of things have caused huge rifts in families that have taken hours or years of coaching and support after the fact to attempt to heal.

Having served as a life transition coach for families who are in the aftermath of the grief that is their reality when these things are not discussed, Annette is the first to say that this is not easy work for any of the parties involved.

When I asked what the alternative would be, she said to talk these things through ahead of time.

It would be far less expensive and save everyone costly emotional heartache.

Amen Annette.
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Maybe talking through things like this isn’t on your priority list in this moment.

I get it.

And when I think about the consequences of not doing it, that shifts my perspective.

Making the choice to move a family member into a senior care home means that the family is going to have to pow-wow about whether mom or dad or grandma can afford it in the first place.

That means having a handle on the bills that need to be paid, the resources available to meet those obligations, and so much more.

Kids don’t look forward to talking to their parents about this kind of stuff.

Parents may be reluctant to share.

Still, these conversations need to start and important information needs to be compiled because life turns on a dime.

Everything is fine and dandy, until it’s not.

That’s just real life.

Life Goes on Roadmap™ is a playful, empowering toolkit that guides you and your family to get your acts together before life hits a bump in the road.

This is more about LIFE than death.

That’s a refreshing take to make starting these conversations even easier.

Here’s one thing I know to be true.

In the end, it’s never about grandma’s dining room table.

It’s about being seen, heard, and understood.

Make sure your wishes are known and you’ve created a roadmap to find everything your family needs, just in case they have to step in on your behalf or keep driving somehow without you.

If this message can serve someone in your life in perfect timing, please share it. Thank you.

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